May 7th, 2011. Day +57   17 comments

It’s not easy being a mother.  If it were easy, fathers would do it.-from “The Golden Girls”

Day +57 and Charlotte is doing great.  And I know that it is mostly because of the wonderful care and attention and love given to her by Amy.  I am not home every day anymore.  I think Amy is a little happy about that-I know I was driving her crazy when I was.  But she is still at home.  All day, every day.  And she is raising Molly and Charlotte while attending to CJ’s medical needs as well as the all too common almost three year old daily tantrums and difficulties that most toddlers experience.  Charlotte is no different, and it feels really nice to say that.  I know that Amy doesn’t want me to write any of this, and I know that it won’t get me off the hook for not buying her anything, but she has been the best wife and mother any man could ask for.  She has remained strong during all of this, especially when she was still pregnant with Molly.  Not many mothers go through what Amy has in the last year, and probably very few have had to do it in such a condition.  Yet she has stood tall and believed in the staff of AFCH, the power of her God, and the fighting attitude of her little girl.  After two and a half months of watching her Charlotte go through rotten chemotherapy and seeing firsthand what it did to her, she gave birth to our Molly and six days later we were all in the hospital for another round.  Motherhood is rarely defined by a single, specific event-but that one will always make her Mother of the Year.  Every year.  Thank you Amy.  I am lucky to have you.  I love you.

I can’t forget about our mothers either.  We didn’t spend all that time in the hospital alone.  Our mothers were there many of those days.  They shared in the good and the bad moments of it all.  They cried when we cried.  They laughed when we laughed.  They got mad when I swore.  They drove in rain and snow.  They spent too much for a  gallon of gas to help us out when we needed them the most.  And I will never benefit enough from my C+ English and Writing education to fully explain what they have meant to us.  The compassion, strength and support they showed to us every day was critically uplifting.  They may not have lived through this sort of thing before, they may not have had the answers for our tough questions, but they were there.  Holding our hands.  Watching our kids.  Washing our clothes.  And saving our sanity.  Through the last 8 months, we have rarely felt alone in a very lonely situation.  We have our mothers to thank for that.  Thank you Mom, and Mom.  We love you.

There are other mothers that have played a large part in our lives since September.  We have many friends and family members, and even complete strangers that have made a huge impact.  They have included Charlotte in their prayers and concerns for their own families.  They have given of their time, of their wallets and of their love.  They have provided us with food, support, laughter, and endless words of encouragement.

We have met many mothers of patients in AFCH that share in our joys and fears.  I wish none of them had ever seen the inside of that building.  They should not have the horrible job of raising their children behind the doors of a hospital wing.  We hope all of you will one day live a regular life again, free from the fear that follows us all.  And many of Charlotte’s doctors and nurses are mothers.  I don’t know how they can spend their career in such a place, but I am thankful they do.

I think of Charlotte’s stem cell donor.  We were told that the courageous woman had never been pregnant, so we don’t know her status as mother.  But we will say that she has given Charlotte life.  Her selfless act of donating bone marrow may be the greatest moment of Charlotte’s new life, earning her Honorary Mother of the Year.  Every year.

Happy Mother’s Day to everyone.

Posted May 7, 2011 by L. Elske in Uncategorized

17 responses to “May 7th, 2011. Day +57

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  1. Forget about the C+….that was absolutely beautiful!

  2. Happy Mother’s day Honey. Lon could not have said it better. Thank you for all your kind words but I would not have been in any other place but at your sides.

    Love to all of you on this very special Mother’s Day.

    Mom Wagenknecht

    Grandma and Grandpa Wags
  3. What a tribute to all ,Well said even if English was not your strong point.Today is filled with yesterday’s memories, today’s joys, and tomorrow’s dreams.Mother’s love grows by giving,so may this day be one of play, some honest work,and laughter as we are with you all the way. Enjoy your day .Auntie Mary

  4. C+ writers don’t bring a reader to tears. This blog has earned you an A by far. (And I am a teacher, so it counts 😉 ) !

    Wendy Schulteis
  5. I agree with Wendy, you have been a magnificient writer through all these blogs. How we all look up to you and your family. Charlotte has captured the heart of so many people, we’ve cried with you and cheered you on in our own way. As for Amy, she has always been an exceptional lady. Grandma Wags also is so very special to me. Wishing you all a wonderful Day in your own home. Know that we read your blog every day and I forwawrd it to all my bible study ladies, so prayers are with all of you always.
    Happy Mothers Day Amy. God Bless YOU ALL.
    🙂 sharon

    sharon schulteis
  6. All I can say to that wonderful tribute is AMEN. Love you all

    Julie Rennhack
  7. Beautiful post Lon, just beautiful. Happy Mother’s Day to one of the best moms I know! 🙂

  8. What a wonderful post! VERY touching. Happy Mother’s Day, Amy. You are an inspiration to me!!!

  9. How do you top that? It is a very moving and honest tribute to some very special people. We love you and are proud to have been part of your life. Have a GREAT day and enjoy it. G’ma and G’pa E

    G'maE and G'paE
  10. Oh Lon, you’ve don it again! I’m having trouble writing this as the tears just keep coming. God bless you, Amy, Charlotte and Molly. It’s a family like yours that makes this country great! Our love to all of you and Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there.

    Uncle Dean & Auntie Sharon
  11. So beautifully written. Father of the Year is right around the corner : )

    You guys are all so incredibly courageous. Blessings to you all.

  12. Wow! You put it all so well. It is hard enough to be a mom to a healthy 5 year old. I can’t imagine doing it under the circumstances you have lived under. Charlotte is lucky to have you all and you are all blessed to have each other. I am blessed to have been able to follow your story. Thank you.

  13. Thank you for touching my heart.

    Cheryl Batterman
  14. and I forgot… how do you get Molly to smile so sweetly in her pics?

    Cheryl Batterman
  15. WOW!!! What a wonderful post, Lon, and Mother’s Day tribute. Amy’s got to give you some “points” for that! You two are such great parents to those two sweet little girls. You’re always in our prayers, and much love to all of you.

    Aunt Cyndee & Uncle Earl

  16. Lon, your blog is a priceless treasure so filled with praise for the many mothers who have touched your life. Your C+ English made me cry! Oh, not because you wrote poorly!! 🙂 It was the way you expressed what was/is in your heart; you did it extremely well! Both you and Amy are fantastic!! Prayers continue . . .

  17. Oh my-what a special way of expressing yourself!!! You both are so special. You both deserve “Parent of the Year”.
    May the memories the last few months fade and fantastic happy days begin.
    P.S. Forget about your english grade-YOUR TEACHERS SHOULD SEE YOU NOW.

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